VVF - Commentshttp://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/en-USSquarespace V5 Site Server v5.13.159 (http://www.squarespace.com)Autumn comments on An educationAutumnSat, 11 May 2013 02:26:50 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/5/6/an-education.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/20010605I can't wait to hear even more about this. I am beyond thankful for this reminder and your incredible way with words. Happy Day to you too!

]]>Julia comments on An educationJuliaFri, 10 May 2013 20:24:30 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/5/6/an-education.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/20010094Your writing and way with words and passion is breathtakingly beautiful. That is all.

]]>stefanie comments on how to talk so people will listenstefanieTue, 16 Apr 2013 06:44:27 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/4/5/how-to-talk-so-people-will-listen.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19934806Amy, thank you for the vote of confidence in my communication style, though I'm not sure everyone agrees that I'm witty, ha! It's so much easier when it's just egregious and the person's a jerk than when it's more subtle and the person means well.

Janine, I don't mean to put you off school! The rest of it is totally great, and the kid loves it in a very non-Stockholm Syndromey way. I feel okay about it because I'm pretty confident that my complete dismissal of power hierarchies is trickling down, heh. Sorry, future bosses!

]]>Janine comments on how to talk so people will listenJanineSat, 06 Apr 2013 18:44:15 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/4/5/how-to-talk-so-people-will-listen.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19908928Great post, and I think you've successfully scared me away from sending my kid to school or daycare. That kind of talk to kids is really mainstream. And it is very much the culture. I definitely thought of the whole "don't spoil the" child-rearing philosophy as the standard before I actually decided to have kids and started -gasp- reading actual studies, history etc.

I will say though, if one of my *adult* friends was whining to me about a thorn prick, I'd probably tell them to suck it the fuck up. Just saying.

]]>Amy @ Anktangle comments on how to talk so people will listenAmy @ AnktangleSat, 06 Apr 2013 15:23:33 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/4/5/how-to-talk-so-people-will-listen.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19908582This is a really tough one, Stefanie! I struggle so much with these kinds of situations: is it best to intervene, because I (as an adult with the privilege and communication skills that come with age) might be able to appeal to this person in a way the child (apparently) cannot? And if so, how do I do it gravefully yet effectively, without royally pissing off the other adult and invalidating anything I might say? I have not figured out the perfect formula for this type of situation, and find myself fumbling around and often regretting that I chose not to say something for fear of the repercussions.

So my only advice is this: since this teacher's communication bothered you so much (as it should--why are children still treated like this!?) you should definitely say something to her about it. You have a witty way of getting your point across that is disarming yet pointed. I'm sure you'll find the right thing to say to this teacher. And I'll be following the other comments so that I can learn from others' wisdom in this area!

]]>Dee comments on fine reads: one hundred is a familyDeeTue, 19 Mar 2013 17:58:12 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/3/7/fine-reads-one-hundred-is-a-family.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19847944I'll have to check it out b/c the author wrote two of my daughter's favorite books (Esperanza Rising and Becoming Naomi Leon).

]]>Lauren @ Hobo Mama comments on I am not an astronaut and other failingsLauren @ Hobo MamaSun, 03 Mar 2013 22:22:36 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/3/1/i-am-not-an-astronaut-and-other-failings.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19800594Such a meaningful post. Thank you for sharing. I think 6-year-old you would definitely be impressed.

I wrote myself a letter when I was 14 to be opened at 24. I was worried to open it, because I was expecting a lot of demands and implied disappointments. But, you know, 14-year-old me was nice. She was just so excited to think about being a whole old 24! Sounded so mysterious and sexy. And she just wanted to make sure I was happy.

I definitely do not always (often) do my best. It's a balance where I have to allow that for sanity but then not use it as an excuse not to try better.

]]>stefanie comments on my son, the weanerstefanieSat, 02 Mar 2013 06:47:09 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/2/14/my-son-the-weaner.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19778375Melissa, THANK YOU. Gah, I was feeling like we turned into lepers! Thanks all of you ladies, too. For some reason tons of comments (including my own, wtf?) keep getting marked as spam. I appreciate, from the bottom of my heart, your lack of spam and kind words. :)

]]>stefanie comments on my son, the weanerstefanieSat, 02 Mar 2013 06:44:05 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/2/14/my-son-the-weaner.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19778370Bianca, thank you! Whatever happens, celebrate the gift you've given your child(ren), no matter how long you nurse.

]]>Autumn comments on birthdazeAutumnFri, 01 Mar 2013 03:56:48 +0000http://www.veryveryfine.com/imported-20101215221410/2013/2/25/birthdaze.html#comments744721:8833318:comment/19775171What can I say, I am nothing if not tech savvy. Your party was so instagrammy.

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